|NOT JUST ANOTHER JOB!
When Grandma was placed in a nursing home, I felt at a loss. For her I did all of the cooking, shopping, trips to the drug store, some cleaning and was available 24 hours a day. Now what?
I applied for a job as a care giver and was hired. The first place that I was sent, was to a man who had just lost his wife. My hours were 3 days a week. The oldest daughter told me that I was not to mention her mother at all to her dad. The first day we went out for breakfast. He talked about his wife all the while we ate and when we returned home, he continued to talk about her. When my time was up and as I was going toward the door, he told me that this was the best day he had since his wife passed.
The arrangements we made ahead of time were for me to enter the home through the garage side door, go through the garage and then into the home. Wouldn’t you know it, the second time I was to stay with him, they forgot to unlock the side door. So, I went around to the front door and after several times knocking, he came to the door in his underwear. He was very upset. I asked him what he was so upset about.
He told me that he had a roll of money and couldn’t find it. Wow, second day on the job and I could be accused of stealing. I helped him get dressed, searched the bed and then made it. Looked in all of the dresser drawers. We finally went down to the basement to check his dirty clothes. Never found it. I did call in to share the dilemma with the office. After checking I found out he had no money like that.
For this client I washed the laundry, cleaned the floors, made him breakfast and lunch. We would go for rides to look over the landscape and just sit and visit. Once we had a terrible storm, so I brought him to our house. He had a nice meal and really hit it off with my mother-in-law.
For those of you who are in nursing homes, need assisted living or just alone. I encourage you to be of good cheer. St Paul said about those who have no one, “They put their hope in God and continue night and day to pray and to ask God for help” (1 Timothy 5:5). For those of you who have family in these facilities, I encourage you to visit them, often. I found out that this was not just another job, it was the best one I had. St. Paul tells us to learn to put our faith and the love of Jesus into practice “by caring for their own family and so repaying their parents and grandparents, for this is pleasing to God”
(1 Timothy 5:4).
Caring for the elderly and handicapped is not a burden God puts on us, it really is a joy. I had many more places where I was a care giver and found a love there that was very special. Hugs were not unusual.
Just check for yourselves.
I chose the hymn “Comfort, Comfort Now My People” simply because there seems so much sadness in our lives these days and I always find forgiveness for my selfishness and relief in my troubles in this hymn.
The fourth commandment reads: “Honor your father and mother, that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on earth.” What does this mean? We should fear and love God that we do not dishonor or anger our parents and others in authority, but honor, serve and obey them, and give them love and respect. Luther’s Large Catechism.
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Joseph E Stickney April 1, 2020 - Vol 13 No 7
David’s Star EV Lutheran Church